Personal Transformation

Forgiveness : Sister of Acceptance

Forgiveness if traced back, is a sibling of Acceptance.

 

To put it in perspective, I think we can link one emotion to another. We are pretty aware of which emotion results in another or what stems from what. 

 

Anger if not controlled turns to Rage and Hate, while little Kindness in the moment of hardships stems from  Trust and fosters Love. 

 

So you see, there is a little village of emotions and they live there. And in this village, I find Forgiveness related to Acceptance. It feels like they have a sisterly bond. 

 

Forgiveness is one of those words and acts that many people avoid because of the connotations they attach to it. As a general rule, people think that if you forgive someone, you’re approving or justifying their actions.

 

Forgiveness has long been associated with the idea that you have to force yourself to like the offender or that you are okay with their behaviour in order to forgive them.

 

The concept of acceptance, on the other hand, differs significantly from that of forgiveness. Forgiveness can only be achieved if you are able to accept what happened and put it out of your mind. Acceptance implies that you’re willing to accept the past as it is and to move forward with a clear goal of creating a better future for yourself and your partner. Let me be clear: Acceptance in the actual sense does not mean that you have to forget the occurrence, nor does it mean that you have entirely overcome the suffering being imposed on yourself.

 

We must go through a long process of acceptance before we can say we’ve accepted the situation. It’s easier said than done, but if you want your relationship to last, you have to be willing to accept each other’s flaws.

 

In this sisterhood between Forgiveness and Acceptance, the latter leads the way protecting and nurturing the former like an elder sister. As we will move further in the blog, we will understand the interconnectedness of Forgiveness and Acceptance. 

Eight Emotion Families: Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions

 

Through years of studying emotions, American psychologist Dr. Robert Plutchik proposed that there are eight primary emotions that serve as the foundation for all others: joy, sadness, acceptance, disgust, fear, anger, surprise, and anticipation. (Pollack, 2016)

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